Things in my life have finally settled down. At least, as much as they ever will. Jenn is completely out of my life now - I have nothing here that is hers or reminds me of her, nor do I have her on AIM or my PHONE anymore. Completely done with her and that part of my life. I think i'd even dare to say that I am over her and ready to move on. A month or so ago, things all just seemed to click together about her and how things were between us. I'm not going to go into all that, but i've basically concluded that it was one of those life-learning experiences - in the sense i learned a lot about myself, the person I am, and the person I want to be with.
For starters, I have a few things that are a MUST in a girl:
1. Short - I'm only 5'10", and girls love to wear heels. Nothing taller then 5'6"....5'7" is OK too. 5'8" might be pushing it.
2. Athletic - I like being active. I want to live an active lifestyle. So, I expect the same from my partner.
3. Animal Lover - I love most animals. Cats I can tolerate, but given the choice, I wouldn't live with any. Dogs - now thats something I want in my future. I'm leaning towards a Visla - highly active dog, but that should fit right into my lifestyle.
4. Intelligence - I like a girl with brains, it challengs the mental side of me. If you can't tell me where Georgia is (the Country, not the State) then you're probably not going to be able to hold many intelligent conversations with me. Sure, I might talk techy a little bit (everyone should know what a Cat5 Cable is...) but since its my current career, I'd appreciate it if you made an attempt to learn/understand what I am talking about. I will, on the other hand, make all atempts to show interest and learn from you about your job and any terminology you may use.
5. Down to Earth - Keep your head out of the clouds, thankyouverymuch. Its even better if you're aware of whats going around you too.
6. Honesty - this is probably one of the biggest things for me. I try to be pretty truthful and honest around everyone I know, even if its not what they want to hear. If i'm committed to you, in a relationship, then you've got nothing to worry about. I'm not going to run off with some one else or cheat on you. I'll respect your wishes too. I expect the same sort of treatment from you. (This ties into #2 down below). If, for whatever reason, you do cheat on me I expect you to own up to it immediately - i'd rather hear it from you then one of your friends. And DON'T say you're sorry - if you were, you'd never have done it in the first place.
Some things a girl should NOT be:
1. Materialistic - Sorry, doesn't cut it for me. I don't like snobby people, who love you based on how large your wallet is.
2. Extra Baggage - still sorta kinda seeing some one? Have some one on back-burner? Open relationship? Juggling a few guys? Then I'm not interested. I'm not going to compete for attention from some one like that. If you can't commit to one guy, then don't bother talking to me.
3. Smokers - Can't stand it. I've seen plenty of hot girls but get completely turned off when I see them puffing on a smoke to the point where i'd reject them if they were interested in me. [Not that a hot girl has ever approached me before.]
4. Dishonesty - Small lies turn into big lies, which turn into major problems. A relationship is all about trust - if I can't trust you about simple, little things, how can I trust you in a relationship?
Take that list as you will. Its kind of my checklist when dealing with new relationships.
As for me and my life, I have no idea what the next few years have in store for me. I think it would be safe to say that I will have moved away from Florida by 2010 though where too is still very much up in the air. In my current situation and my single status in no danger of changing anytime soon, its safe to say that by 2011 you'll find me in one of the following places (listed in order of preference):
1. New Zealand (South Island)
2. British Columbia (West Coast of Canada)
3. Colorado (Denver Area/Boulder)
4. NJ/NYC Area (Hometown Area)
Places I don't want to live can be summed up like this:
1. Florida
2. The South (Southern States)
3. Boston (Go JETS!)
So that takes care of that.
I'm using this weekend as a launching off point that will get me back on the rails. I haven't ridden by bike in about 2 months and still need to lose at least 10 lbs. I need to try and eat healthier too, though have little motivation to do so and what I have been eating is easy and cheap. Going to the GYM is out of the question - can't afford a gym membership at this point and don't think I could drag myself there after work, not to mention it cuts down on gas usage. Getting active again will be nice, and i'll be spending a few weekends this year out in the woods - not true camping/hiking, but about as close to it as you can get her in Florida.
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